Usually I'm a talky-talky person with opinions on everything. We've gone a round or two on the sexism discussions and I'm having some personal connection with those issues, but they're not really FanSci topic worthy. (Try arguing with a four year old that just because McDonalds call them "boy toys" and "girl toys" does not make it so.) I think I've been spinning this issue around in my head too much and I haven't been able to get beyond it.
I think the examples Husband and I set make this less of a real issue for my little ones, but I still worry.
I put down a tile floor this morning -- only a small one, in the bathroom, but I did it. (That's where the tile chips came from. Those things fly off the tile saw with some serious velocity and I find them in all sorts of unexpected places.) I'm the one that tiled and mostly rebuilt the kitchen when we bought this house. (Husband and a friend of his hung the cabinets, but that's a heavy lifting issue.) I swung the sledgehammer to pull all the walls down when we realized we needed to see all the possible piping issues before we could build anything new.
Then again, we went traditional in that I'm a home-mommy while Husband works. (I threw up all day every day for the first six months of both pregnancies. It was a practical decision. Also, I have trust issues with strangers and my babies.)
It's still not a FanSci issue, but I can't seem to get past it. I can do the step by step work of rebuilding the bathroom, but every time I sit down and try to think, my head spins on the same topic. Should I have made a different argument? Does he really believe this stuff? How much of this is because my mother-in-law can't recognize the sexism in her words and phrases.
So, since I can't get my head in the right place, I wondered where your heads are. Are you thinking Valentines thoughts? Planning Valentine's plans? Ignoring the upcoming holiday to build your own projects, read your own books? Write your own books?
I have a pile of books to read. I think I'm going to make the weekend computer-free again and spend the time reading. Maybe that will help.
Next week, I'll be on topic.